[SPARK-17738] [SQL] fix ARRAY/MAP in columnar cache

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?

The actualSize() of array and map is different from the actual size, the header is Int, rather than Long.

## How was this patch tested?

The flaky test should be fixed.

Author: Davies Liu <davies@databricks.com>

Closes #15305 from davies/fix_MAP.