[SPARK-3619] Part 2. Upgrade to Mesos 0.21 to work around MESOS-1688

- MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY become deprecated
- Chagned MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY to MESOS_NATIVE_JAVA_LIBRARY

Author: Jongyoul Lee <jongyoul@gmail.com>

Closes #4361 from jongyoul/SPARK-3619-1 and squashes the following commits:

f1ea91f [Jongyoul Lee] Merge branch 'SPARK-3619-1' of https://github.com/jongyoul/spark into SPARK-3619-1
a6a00c2 [Jongyoul Lee] [SPARK-3619] Upgrade to Mesos 0.21 to work around MESOS-1688 - Removed 'Known issues' section
2e15a21 [Jongyoul Lee] [SPARK-3619] Upgrade to Mesos 0.21 to work around MESOS-1688 - MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY become deprecated - Chagned MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY to MESOS_NATIVE_JAVA_LIBRARY
0dace7b [Jongyoul Lee] [SPARK-3619] Upgrade to Mesos 0.21 to work around MESOS-1688 - MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY become deprecated - Chagned MESOS_NATIVE_LIBRARY to MESOS_NATIVE_JAVA_LIBRARY