SPARK-2543: Allow user to set maximum Kryo buffer size

Author: Koert Kuipers <koert@tresata.com>

Closes #735 from koertkuipers/feat-kryo-max-buffersize and squashes the following commits:

15f6d81 [Koert Kuipers] change default for spark.kryoserializer.buffer.max.mb to 64mb and add some documentation
1bcc22c [Koert Kuipers] Merge branch 'master' into feat-kryo-max-buffersize
0c9f8eb [Koert Kuipers] make default for kryo max buffer size 16MB
143ec4d [Koert Kuipers] test resizable buffer in kryo Output
0732445 [Koert Kuipers] support setting maxCapacity to something different than capacity in kryo Output