[SPARK-17701][SQL] Refactor RowDataSourceScanExec so its sameResult call does not compare strings

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?

Currently, `RowDataSourceScanExec` and `FileSourceScanExec` rely on a "metadata" string map to implement equality comparison, since the RDDs they depend on cannot be directly compared. This has resulted in a number of correctness bugs around exchange reuse, e.g. SPARK-17673 and SPARK-16818.

To make these comparisons less brittle, we should refactor these classes to compare constructor parameters directly instead of relying on the metadata map.

This PR refactors `RowDataSourceScanExec`, `FileSourceScanExec` will be fixed in the follow-up PR.

## How was this patch tested?

existing tests

Author: Wenchen Fan <wenchen@databricks.com>

Closes #18600 from cloud-fan/minor.