[SPARK-11866][NETWORK][CORE] Make sure timed out RPCs are cleaned up.

This change does a couple of different things to make sure that the RpcEnv-level
code and the network library agree about the status of outstanding RPCs.

For RPCs that do not expect a reply ("RpcEnv.send"), support for one way
messages (hello CORBA!) was added to the network layer. This is a
"fire and forget" message that does not require any state to be kept
by the TransportClient; as a result, the RpcEnv 'Ack' message is not needed
anymore.

For RPCs that do expect a reply ("RpcEnv.ask"), the network library now
returns the internal RPC id; if the RpcEnv layer decides to time out the
RPC before the network layer does, it now asks the TransportClient to
forget about the RPC, so that if the network-level timeout occurs, the
client is not killed.

As part of implementing the above, I cleaned up some of the code in the
netty rpc backend, removing types that were not necessary and factoring
out some common code. Of interest is a slight change in the exceptions
when posting messages to a stopped RpcEnv; that's mostly to avoid nasty
error messages from the local-cluster backend when shutting down, which
pollutes the terminal output.

Author: Marcelo Vanzin <vanzin@cloudera.com>

Closes #9917 from vanzin/SPARK-11866.