[SPARK-19617][SS] Fix the race condition when starting and stopping a query quickly

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?

The streaming thread in StreamExecution uses the following ways to check if it should exit:
- Catch an InterruptException.
- `StreamExecution.state` is TERMINATED.

When starting and stopping a query quickly, the above two checks may both fail:
- Hit [HADOOP-14084](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/HADOOP-14084) and swallow InterruptException
- StreamExecution.stop is called before `state` becomes `ACTIVE`. Then [runBatches](https://github.com/apache/spark/blob/dcc2d540a53f0bd04baead43fdee1c170ef2b9f3/sql/core/src/main/scala/org/apache/spark/sql/execution/streaming/StreamExecution.scala#L252) changes the state from `TERMINATED` to `ACTIVE`.

If the above cases both happen, the query will hang forever.

This PR changes `state` to `AtomicReference` and uses`compareAndSet` to make sure we only change the state from `INITIALIZING` to `ACTIVE`. It also removes the `runUninterruptibly` hack from ``HDFSMetadata`, because HADOOP-14084 won't cause any problem after we fix the race condition.

## How was this patch tested?

Jenkins

Author: Shixiong Zhu <shixiong@databricks.com>

Closes #16947 from zsxwing/SPARK-19617.