[SPARK-17379][BUILD] Upgrade netty-all to 4.0.41 final for bug fixes

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?
Upgrade netty-all to latest in the 4.0.x line which is 4.0.41, mentions several bug fixes and performance improvements we may find useful, see netty.io/news/2016/08/29/4-0-41-Final-4-1-5-Final.html. Initially tried to use 4.1.5 but noticed it's not backwards compatible.

## How was this patch tested?
Existing unit tests against branch-1.6 and branch-2.0 using IBM Java 8 on Intel, Power and Z architectures

Author: Adam Roberts <aroberts@uk.ibm.com>

Closes #14961 from a-roberts/netty.