This pull request adds a destructAndCreateExternalSorter method to UnsafeFixedWidthAggregationMap. The new method does the following:

1. Creates a new external sorter UnsafeKVExternalSorter
2. Adds all the data into an in-memory sorter, sorts them
3. Spills the sorted in-memory data to disk

This method can be used to fallback to sort-based aggregation when under memory pressure.

The pull request also includes accounting fixes from JoshRosen.

TODOs (that can be done in follow-up PRs)
- [x] Address Josh's feedbacks from #7849
- [x] More documentation and test cases
- [x] Make sure we are doing memory accounting correctly with test cases (e.g. did we release the memory in BytesToBytesMap twice?)
- [ ] Look harder at possible memory leaks and exception handling
- [ ] Randomized tester for the KV sorter as well as the aggregation map

Author: Reynold Xin <rxin@databricks.com>
Author: Josh Rosen <joshrosen@databricks.com>

Closes #7860 from rxin/kvsorter and squashes the following commits:

986a58c [Reynold Xin] Bug fix.
599317c [Reynold Xin] Style fix and slightly more compact code.
fe7bd4e [Reynold Xin] Bug fixes.
fd71bef [Reynold Xin] Merge remote-tracking branch 'josh/large-records-in-sql-sorter' into kvsorter-with-josh-fix
3efae38 [Reynold Xin] More fixes and documentation.
45f1b09 [Josh Rosen] Ensure that spill files are cleaned up
f6a9bd3 [Reynold Xin] Josh feedback.
9be8139 [Reynold Xin] Remove testSpillFrequency.
7cbe759 [Reynold Xin] [SPARK-9531][SQL] UnsafeFixedWidthAggregationMap.destructAndCreateExternalSorter.
ae4a8af [Josh Rosen] Detect leaked unsafe memory in UnsafeExternalSorterSuite.
52f9b06 [Josh Rosen] Detect ShuffleMemoryManager leaks in UnsafeExternalSorter.