The reused address on server side had caused the server can not acknowledge the connected connections, remove it.

This PR will retry once after timeout, it also add a timeout at client side.

Author: Davies Liu <davies@databricks.com>

Closes #5324 from davies/collect_hang and squashes the following commits:

e5a51a2 [Davies Liu] remove setReuseAddress
7977c2f [Davies Liu] do retry on client side
b838f35 [Davies Liu] retry after timeout