[SPARK-19674][SQL] Ignore driver accumulator updates don't belong to the execution when merging all accumulator updates

N.B. This is a backport to branch-2.1 of #17009.

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?
In SQLListener.getExecutionMetrics, driver accumulator updates don't belong to the execution should be ignored when merging all accumulator updates to prevent NoSuchElementException.

## How was this patch tested?
Updated unit test.

Author: Carson Wang <carson.wangintel.com>

Author: Carson Wang <carson.wang@intel.com>

Closes #17418 from mallman/spark-19674-backport_2.1.